Despite the fact that you and your girl are obviously attracted to each
other, you are both products of your own cultural upbringing. Despite
the things you have in common, you both interpret the world around you
through a different set of eyes and through different thought-processes.
Remember that no culture has a monopoly on truth. And your Filipina
girl marrying you does NOT mean she’ll suddenly become an Aussie girl.
She will learn to adapt to your culture, but you at the same time need
to learn to adapt to hers! Like all aspects of marriage, it is a two-way
It is NOT your job to “teach her the right ways to do things”. Our
western, “white man’s” cultures have unfortunate histories of colonising
and “civilising” the eastern and darker-skinned peoples, and this type
of thinking is often more ingrained in our collective psyche than we
would like to think it was. She has as much to teach you as you have to
So, make it your business to learn to understand your lady’s culture.
And make sure you educate her in yours as well, because she’ll not only
be living with you one day, she’ll be living within your culture too.